As children, we have big emotions. If you have (or have had) small children you know what I mean…
Children = big emotions + no self control, wrapped in a small body.
As children we are taught to “hold it together” and be less “impulsive” because quite frankly, our emotional swings and outbursts are too much for our parents to handle. We get taught that some emotions are “acceptable,” while others are “unacceptable”.
This is reinforced even when we are adults….
How many law of attraction “experts” have said that you need to be “happy as Larry” all day long?
How many spiritual “gurus” have espoused the need to be peaceful and neutral at all times?
In a nutshell, right from the beginning of our lives until the very end of our days, we are taught that emotions are “bad” and that we should use the logic of our minds to rationalise our situation and control our feelings.
All of these premises are based upon the notion that our mind, body and spirit are separate. But guess what? That sort of separation is fundamentally unnatural.
Your mind, body and spirit are in fact integrated and work together as an entire “body of consciousness”.
~ Your soul is your wisdom.
~ Your mind is your data processor.
~ Your body is your avatar for experiencing physical reality.
~ Your emotions indicate whether you are in alignment with Universal wellbeing.
Think of the mind-body-spirit connection as being like a system of organs within your body. For example, the digestive system is comprised of many different organs, each with a different function, but none of these organs can exist in isolation – they all need each other to survive and to fulfil their greater function of digestion and elimination.
Your body of consciousness is much the same – you can’t exist in this physical reality without mind, body, spirit and emotions.
So how does this relate to manifestation?
If you are familiar with the principles of manifestation, you are either “allowing” wellbeing or you are “resisting” it. Any time that you are in a state of allowing you are letting all the goodness of the Universe in, whereas any time you are resisting, you are pinching off your flow of wellbeing.
The same principle applies to your emotions. If you are blocking any feelings that aren’t happy, positive and “acceptable”, you are in a state of resistance. If you are judging any of your emotions and giving them a positive or negative charge (or label) you are in a state of resistance.
Now you are probably thinking, “but law of attraction says that lower emotions restrict my flow of wellbeing and what you are saying totally contradicts that.” My answer to you is, “well, yes and no”.
Let me explain…
Sitting in a state of constant misery, depression and anger will switch off your access to wellbeing – absolutely. But nor can you completely deny and block out feelings of sadness, frustration or misery when they arise, because that is resistance and resistance blocks wellbeing.
We also know that emotions serve as our navigational GPS – lower emotions indicate when you are off-course, while positive emotions indicate when you are on the right track. No emotions = no GPS. So to that extent, no emotions are “good” or “bad” because all emotions serve a purpose.
So what is the answer to this apparent conundrum?
The answer is actually quite simple: Move your emotions through your body, then get on with it!
Here are some simple steps to do just that:
Step 1: Acknowledge and Release
If you are feeling angry, miserable or frustrated, acknowledge it. Let those big emotions flow through and out of your body (without hurting anyone else!) Cry, scream, throw a pillow at the wall, listen to music that matches your mood, talk to a friend – whatever it takes. Embrace the emotion, allow the emotion and most of all don’t judge it!
Step 2: Put a Cap on It
Set a timer. Give yourself five to ten minutes to allow yourself to feel those emotions and move them through your body. Once the time is up, so is the pity party!
Step 3: Course Correct
Now that the pity part is over, shift your focus to what you want, rather than what isn’t working and start heading towards that desire. If something in your life contradicts your desires or makes you miserable, eliminate it or re-establish boundaries around that particular situation or relationship.
Step 4: Gratitude
Thank your emotions for highlighting exactly where you needed to make changes in your life.
That’s it! It is so, so simple and far more natural than denying our emotions. Remember, our emotions form an important part of our body of consciousness, which is our divinity expressed in physical form!
I hope that this process has been useful and insightful to you. Feel free to save and share the cheat sheet above to help you remember how to work with your emotions (and not against them!)
Had some big insights or ah-ha moments from this article? Be sure to share in the comments below.
Until next time,